Making the decision to dissolve a marriage is difficult for any couple. Sadly, divorce is especially hard on families with children, and attorneys are usually called in to work out complex child support and child custody issues. Here are some ways in which you can help your children cope during this painful time for your family.
When you and your spouse decide to end your marriage, discuss your plans as a family. While the discussion should be tailored to each child’s maturity level, be sure to convey that your children are in no way at fault for your decision to live apart. Let your kids know that you will be there to answer any of their questions, and be sure to set aside extra time in case one child is struggling with the news. Emphasize that you will all still continue to love each other as a family.
Older children especially may have picked up on conflicts, but try to confine negativity between parents to private therapy sessions or conversations outside the home. If you need to speak with your family lawyer, take the phone call at your office or out of earshot. Divorce can be an upsetting and emotional time, but exposing your children to unhealthy feelings of anger or aggression may lead them to feel guilty or somehow at fault.
It is likely that your children will ask questions about new living arrangements, schools, and financial circumstances. It’s okay to say that you don’t have all the answers yet, but it’s important to be honest throughout the process.
The family law team at The Law Firm of Walter K. Schreyer has successfully handled fault and no-fault divorces in New Jersey and New York, and we understand that working out child custody and visitation, child support, and alimony can be contentious issues. Our family attorneys are dedicated to supporting you throughout the process. Call us today at (201) 383-4256 to find out how our lawyers can help you achieve an efficient and positive outcome.